Anger: Handling a Powerful Emotion in a Healthy Way Author: Gary D Chapman | Language: English | ISBN:
1881273881 | Format: PDF
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"This is an excellent book for understanding and coping with the various scenarios that spark our anger. Gary Chapman's decision to read his own work, based on stories gleaned from his years of individual and couples counseling, is a strong one because it lends an intimate tone to this sensitive subject. Chapman’s warm voice and use of colloquial expression make listeners feel that they could be sitting down with the good doctor himself. Chapman artfully sheds his reputation as an international author and speaker and allows listeners to connect with him and with the startling fact that anger, perhaps even more than love, is a universal human emotion."
M.R. 2008 Audies Finalist © AudioFile Portland, Maine
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From the Back Cover
A relative makes a tactless comment about your child's weight.
The guy behind you on the expressway follows too closely.
Your wife lets the gas tank go down to empty . . . again.
Life is full of frustrations-some big, some little. And while you might not be ready to blow, it's easy to grow bitter and angry in the wake of disappointment, hurt, rejection, and embarrassment.
Anger is a reality of life. But it doesn't have to control our lives. And in fact, anger can be used for good-and can even change the world!
In Anger: Handling a Powerful Emotion in a Healthy Way, the revised and updated edition of The Other Side of Love, Dr. Gary Chapman offers helpful-and sometimes surprising-insights into why you get angry and what you can do about it. Using real-life examples of transformed lives and relationships, Chapman explains how to:
-Recognize the difference between "bad" anger and "good" anger
-Use anger to motivate you toward positive change
-Release long-simmering resentment
-Teach your children how to deal with anger
and more . . .
Also included: a 13-session discussion guide that's perfect for small groups, workplace studies, and book clubs! Plus: reflection questions in each chapter!
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- Paperback: 240 pages
- Publisher: Northfield Publishing; New Edition edition (September 1, 2007)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 1881273881
- ISBN-13: 978-1881273882
- Product Dimensions: 8.9 x 6.1 x 0.5 inches
- Shipping Weight: 11.2 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
Chapman begins his book by defining anger. He states it is "a response to some event or situation in life that causes us irritation, frustration, pain, other displeasure." Chapman continues:
"Anger is fed by feelings of disappointment, hurt, rejection, and embarrassment. Anger pits you against the person, place, or thing that sparked the emotion. It is the opposite of the feeling of love. Love draws you toward the person; anger sets you against the person."
Chapman also establishes, early in the book, that not all anger is bad. In fact, Chapman asserts, it is the proper reaction to injustice and evil. Chapman writes:
"...each of us has on some level a concern for righteousness, fairness, and justice. Whenever we encounter that which we believe to be unrighteous, unkind, or unjust, we experience anger. I believe that in God's design this anger is to motivate us to take positive, loving action to seek to set the wrong right; and where there has been a relationship, to restore the relationship with the wrongdoer."
Chapman is careful to add that this does not give us license to "do destructive things" or to hurt those who wronged us. Rather he is merely explaining that anger "originates in the perception that something is wrong."
Chapman then makes a key distinction between two different types of anger: definitive and distorted. Definitive anger is when we've been wronged and are angry for good reason. If someone cheats us in a business deal, pokes us in the eye with a sharp stick for no good reason or lobs live hand grenades at our vehicle while we're driving home from work we would probably be angry - and for good reason! These are all examples of definitive anger and are valid reasons for getting angry.
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