Anger: Handling a Powerful Emotion in a Healthy Way Author: Gary D Chapman | Language: English | ISBN:
B0036RCVI8 | Format: EPUB
Anger: Handling a Powerful Emotion in a Healthy Way Description
We live in an angry society. From road rage to workplace incidents to marital bickering, out-of-control anger is all around us. How can we handle our anger--and help those we love with theirs? How can we teach our children to deal with their anger? And what about those long-simmering feelings of anger toward people in our past? What's the difference between "bad" and "good" anger? Bestselling author and relationship expert Dr. Gary Chapman offers helpful--and sometimes surprising--insights on why we get angry, what we can do about it, and how we can use anger for good.
- File Size: 1002 KB
- Print Length: 236 pages
- Page Numbers Source ISBN: 1881273881
- Publisher: Northfield Publishing; New Edition edition (September 1, 2007)
- Sold by: Amazon Digital Services, Inc.
- Language: English
- ASIN: B0036RCVI8
- Text-to-Speech: Enabled
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- Lending: Enabled
- Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #66,516 Paid in Kindle Store (See Top 100 Paid in Kindle Store)
- #51
in Kindle Store > Kindle eBooks > Health, Fitness & Dieting > Mental Health > Mood Disorders
- #51
in Kindle Store > Kindle eBooks > Health, Fitness & Dieting > Mental Health > Mood Disorders
Chapman begins his book by defining anger. He states it is "a response to some event or situation in life that causes us irritation, frustration, pain, other displeasure." Chapman continues:
"Anger is fed by feelings of disappointment, hurt, rejection, and embarrassment. Anger pits you against the person, place, or thing that sparked the emotion. It is the opposite of the feeling of love. Love draws you toward the person; anger sets you against the person."
Chapman also establishes, early in the book, that not all anger is bad. In fact, Chapman asserts, it is the proper reaction to injustice and evil. Chapman writes:
"...each of us has on some level a concern for righteousness, fairness, and justice. Whenever we encounter that which we believe to be unrighteous, unkind, or unjust, we experience anger. I believe that in God's design this anger is to motivate us to take positive, loving action to seek to set the wrong right; and where there has been a relationship, to restore the relationship with the wrongdoer."
Chapman is careful to add that this does not give us license to "do destructive things" or to hurt those who wronged us. Rather he is merely explaining that anger "originates in the perception that something is wrong."
Chapman then makes a key distinction between two different types of anger: definitive and distorted. Definitive anger is when we've been wronged and are angry for good reason. If someone cheats us in a business deal, pokes us in the eye with a sharp stick for no good reason or lobs live hand grenades at our vehicle while we're driving home from work we would probably be angry - and for good reason! These are all examples of definitive anger and are valid reasons for getting angry.
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