Love Must Be Tough: New Hope for Marriages in Crisis Author: Visit Amazon's James C. Dobson Page | Language: English | ISBN:
141431745X | Format: PDF
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About the Author
James C. Dobson, Ph.D., is founder and chairman of Focus on the Family, a nonprofit organization that produces his internationally syndicated radio programs, heard by more than 200 million people every day. He is seen on 80 television stations daily in the U.S. A licensed psychologist and licensed marriage, family, and child counselor, he is a clinical member of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy and is listed in Who's Who in Medicine and Healthcare. Dr. Dobson is married to Shirley and is the father of two grown children, Danae and Ryan. He resides in Colorado.
- Paperback: 238 pages
- Publisher: Tyndale Momentum; 1 edition (April 1, 2007)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 141431745X
- ISBN-13: 978-1414317458
- Product Dimensions: 8.5 x 6 x 0.6 inches
- Shipping Weight: 9.6 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
There are some parts of this book that I agree with and some parts that I don't.
Here's what I agree with:
-- that if your spouse tries to leave you for another person, you shouldn't act pathetic by begging and pleading for them to stay. Instead you should act like a person with self-respect and let them go. Makes sense to me.
-- that you shouldn't accept blame for an affair. You didn't even know the affair was happening so how can you be an accomplice? Your partner may try to shift the blame to you in order to alleviate their own guilt. The author advises that you shield yourself against blame so that it bounces right back to the cheater where it belongs. Makes sense to me, too.
Here's what I disagree with:
-- the length of the book. There are some parts of the book where the author is simply repeating the same points over and over again. I believe this book could've been shorter in length.
-- that if a cheater comes crawling back to you, you should take them back. I believe forgiveness is good for the soul, but taking back someone who blatantly disregards your feelings is not. I realize I'm in the minority here...every book I've read on adultery encourages the victim to take back the abuser.
However, everyone I know who's taken back a cheater has been cheated on again...and these weren't weaklings either. These were tough love people who made it perfectly clear that cheating is unacceptable and won't be tolerated. And yet...after setting these clear-cut boundaries, these people still got cheated on again.
All books I've read on adultery hold the betrayed spouse accountable...
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