Marriage Rules: A Manual for the Married and the Coupled Up Author: Harriet Lerner | Language: English | ISBN:
B005ERIS2G | Format: PDF
Marriage Rules: A Manual for the Married and the Coupled Up Description
Coupling up is complicated—Dr. Harriet Lerner’s marriage rules are not. This marriage book provides couple’s therapy in a unique format perfect for today’s world. The renowned author of
The Dance of Anger gives readers more than one hundred rules that cover all the hot spots in long-term relationships.
Marriage Rules offers new relationship advice to age-old problems (“He won’t talk”/“She doesn’t want sex”) as well as modern ones (your partner’s relationship to technology). If one person in a couple follows ten rules of his or her choice, it will generate a major, positive change. All that’s required is a genuine wish for a better relationship and a willingness to practice.
Marriage Rules is a treasure chest of lively, practical advice to help you navigate your relationships issues with clarity, courage, and joyous conviction.
- File Size: 256 KB
- Print Length: 288 pages
- Publisher: Gotham Books; Reprint edition (January 5, 2012)
- Sold by: Penguin Group (USA) LLC
- Language: English
- ASIN: B005ERIS2G
- Text-to-Speech: Enabled
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- Lending: Not Enabled
- Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #52,068 Paid in Kindle Store (See Top 100 Paid in Kindle Store)
- #94
in Kindle Store > Kindle eBooks > Health, Fitness & Dieting > Relationships > Mate Seeking
- #94
in Kindle Store > Kindle eBooks > Health, Fitness & Dieting > Relationships > Mate Seeking
The timing of the arrival of this book was somewhat uncanny, as it arrived the day after my wife and I had had our first fight in quite a long while (in the past, there have been rough spots). During that fight, uncharacteristically, my wife was really anger with me and lost her temper, screaming and yelling and cursing; that night, she even slept in another room. The next morning my instinct was (fitting of Ms. Lerner observation that we tend toward fight or flight) to be frosty, but I reminded myself that won't change a downward spiral effect; so I tried to be pleasant, but that probably just got me to neutral. Then, a few pages in to Marriage Rules, Lerner wrote (quoting a friend and colleague): "It's just when your partner is being the biggest jerk that you're called upon to be your best self." Now, my wife wasn't really being a jerk (I could understand why she was disappointed in me, even if she was over-reacting [from my vantage point]. But it helped me reset my emotional thermostat and got me excited about Ms. Lerner's new book.
The excitement wasn't because of any big breakthroughs, but because the book offers timeless reminders delivered in an engaging way and illustrated with good vignettes. For example, in Rule #43 in the "Fight Fair" section, she tells about a San Francisco-based couple that fought viciously over just about everything. They seemed to have no control over their attacks on each other -- until a distinguished British professor stayed as a house guest for months, sleeping in the bedroom right next to theirs. Over those months, they were courteous with each other and agreed it was among the best months of their marriage. The point: you have more control than you think.
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