The Spark: A Mother's Story of Nurturing, Genius, and Autism Author: Kristine Barnett | Language: English | ISBN:
B009QJMV8A | Format: EPUB
The Spark: A Mother's Story of Nurturing, Genius, and Autism Description
Kristine Barnett’s son Jacob has an IQ higher than Einstein’s, a photographic memory, and he taught himself calculus in two weeks. At nine he started working on an original theory in astrophysics that experts believe may someday put him in line for a Nobel Prize, and at age twelve he became a paid researcher in quantum physics. But the story of Kristine’s journey with Jake is all the more remarkable because his extraordinary mind was almost lost to autism. At age two, when Jake was diagnosed, Kristine was told he might never be able to tie his own shoes.
The Spark is a remarkable memoir of mother and son. Surrounded by “experts” at home and in special ed who tried to focus on Jake’s most basic skills and curtail his distracting interests—moving shadows on the wall, stars, plaid patterns on sofa fabric—Jake made no progress, withdrew more and more into his own world, and eventually stopped talking completely. Kristine knew in her heart that she had to make a change. Against the advice of her husband, Michael, and the developmental specialists, Kristine followed her instincts, pulled Jake out of special ed, and began preparing him for mainstream kindergarten on her own.
Relying on the insights she developed at the daycare center she runs out of the garage in her home, Kristine resolved to follow Jacob’s “spark”—his passionate interests. Why concentrate on what he couldn’t do? Why not focus on what he could? This basic philosophy, along with her belief in the power of ordinary childhood experiences (softball, picnics, s’mores around the campfire) and the importance of play, helped Kristine overcome huge odds.
The Barnetts were not wealthy people, and in addition to financial hardship, Kristine herself faced serious health issues. But through hard work and determination on behalf of Jake and his two younger brothers, as well as an undying faith in their community, friends, and family, Kristine and Michael prevailed. The results were beyond anything anyone could have imagined.
Dramatic, inspiring, and transformative,
The Spark is about the power of love and courage in the face of overwhelming obstacles, and the dazzling possibilities that can occur when we learn how to tap the true potential that lies within every child, and in all of us.
Praise for The Spark “[An] amazing memoir . . . compulsive reading.”
—The Washington Post “
The Spark is about the transformative power of unconditional love. If you have a child who’s ‘different’—and who doesn’t?—you won’t be able to put it down.”
—Sylvia Nasar, author of A Beautiful Mind “Love, illness, faith, tragedy and triumph—it’s all here. . . . Jake Barnett’s story contains wisdom for every parent.”
—Newsday “This eloquent memoir about an extraordinary boy and a resilient and remarkable mother will be of interest to every parent and/or educator hoping to nurture a child’s authentic ‘spark.’”
—Publishers Weekly “Compelling . . . Jake is unusual, but so is his superhuman mom.”
—Booklist “
The Spark describes in glowing terms the profound intensity with which a mother can love her child.”
—Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon and Far from the Tree “Every parent and teacher should read this fabulous book!”
—Temple Grandin, author of Thinking in Pictures and co-author of The Autistic BrainFrom the Hardcover edition.- File Size: 4777 KB
- Print Length: 281 pages
- Page Numbers Source ISBN: 0812993373
- Publisher: Random House Trade Paperbacks (April 9, 2013)
- Sold by: Random House LLC
- Language: English
- ASIN: B009QJMV8A
- Text-to-Speech: Enabled
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I come to this review with a somewhat different perspective than most, because I, too, am autistic. Not nearly as severely as Jake -- I have high-functioning Asperger's. And my IQ, high as it is, pales in comparison to his genius. Nevertheless, there were many places where I saw myself in his story.
This is not only a wonderful story of a mother's struggle with "experts" on behalf of her gifted autistic son, it is also a general formula for success: When dealing with disabled or developmentally-challenged children, focus on what they CAN do, not the things they can't. Jake Barnett is a genius, but if his mother had accepted the advice of the special ed people, his brilliant mind would have been lost to the world. At age 2, she was told he would never learn to read or even tie his shoes -- in spite of his obsession with alphabet cards. All the tests focused on things he was either unable to do or -- and this later proved to be the case -- too bored to do. While his mind was studying light and shapes and geometric patterns -- things the teachers saw as mere useless distractions -- he had no interest in sitting in a circle with other children or playing with puppets, the usual kinds of expectations for toddlers. And so he was seriously mislabeled as hopeless.
Kristine Barnett refused to accept a "ceiling" for her son and decided to give him all the alphabet cards he wanted, as well as whatever other activities he found interesting, and work with him from there. This was completely against all the professional advice -- even her husband Michael was skeptical at first -- but eventually it worked. As long as Jake could focus on the things he loved -- astronomy, math, history, physics -- he was willing to work on the more mundane socialization skills.
The first thing I must say is that I loved the book, but think the title may miss the mark in reaching parents who would adore this story. In particular, those with children who have any sort of special needs, and of course, autistic families would want to know this book is a hopeful story for all of them as well. While the author happens to have a brilliant son, she shares some common denominators with all autistic families and has some wonderful insight as to how to work with these children and help them reach their full potential.
I work in Special Education at a high school with many children of varying degrees on the spectrum, so I was interested to hear another experienced voice that had success, so that we might also be able to apply it to the kids we work with. There were definitely some gems I will share to remind us that there are simple ways each day to bring out the "Spark" in each of the students:
- Treat the children as people, not problems to be fixed or objects of pity.
- Every child has something that engages them and if you find the proper lens to magnify it they will flourish.
- Encourage the passion the child has. This doesn't always take tremendous resources and if you are creative enough, you can give them all they need to succeed.
- Kids do things and play with things differently and no way is "right" except the way that makes them most productive and content.
- A rule-based check on social behavior works (they will learn to differentiate between a "code 2" and a "code 10" response if it is taught and reinforced).
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